from Our Therapists
by Lance Doddes
This is an excellent book for better understanding the functioning of addiction, but also other compulsive kinds of behaviors. Lance Doddes empowers people to recognize their actions have a purpose. Then he dispels myths and misunderstandings about addictions all in a way that helps the individual or family members of those struggling with those issues to be more accepting of it. His use of stories makes the ideas easy to understand and relate to oneself.
I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better
by Joy & Geary Lundberg
This book captures the heart of the struggle we have in supporting those we care about. In my years at Cedar Ridge, one of the number one struggles I have encountered is that parents struggle to effectively listen to and validate their children’s fears worries, and concerns because they tend to fix them instead. This book empowers you to let go of others problems and become a companion and support on their journey. As you do so, your relationships will deepen and trust will grow.
Men are Like Waffles; Women are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences
by Bill & Pam Farrel
Written to help strengthen marriages, this husband and wife team use humorous analogies to help spouses increase their understanding of one another and to better accept that there is value in the differences each one brings to a marriage. Read this book to help remember why you got married and to appreciate your spouse more. It is written from a religious standpoint, so it may not be ideal for all couples.
How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything; Yes, Anything
by Albert Ellis
Albert Ellis is a founding father of modern psychology and therapy. This book is, by my consideration, the definitive discourse of the power of positive thinking and reframing life situations. It is approachable and an easy read. A great common reading experience for the whole family!
Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain
by John J. Ratey, MD
The latest research shows that for your brain to function at its peak, your body needs to move. In Spark, John J. Ratey, MD, demonstrates exactly how and why physical activity is crucial to the way you think and feel. He explains how aerobic exercise prepares your brain to learn, improves mood and attention, lowers stress and anxiety, helps stave off addiction, controls the sometimes tumultuous effects of hormonal changes, and guards against and even reverses some of the effects of aging on the brain.
“FIND OUT HOW EXERCISE CAN PUT THE SPARK IN YOUR LIFE!”
“Paradoxically, one of the best treatment strategies for ADHD involves establishing extremely rigid structure. Over the years, I’ve heard countless parents offer the same observation about their ADHD children: Johnny is so much better when he’s doing tae kwon do*. He wasn’t doing his homework, and he was angry, difficult, and problematic; now his best qualities have come out."
*You could substitute any of the martial arts here, including Shotokan Karate taught here at Cedar Ridge Academy.
The Anatomy of Peace
By the Arbinger Institute
The Anatomy of Peace uses the story of a parent who is dropping their child off at a wilderness program to be “fixed” as a means to teaching the importance of getting our hearts right in order to be successful in any aspect of our life. It guides the reader on a journey of self-examination and personal growth that is valuable for every parent as they strive to understand how they reached this place in their life and in their family. It gently helps us consider our role in the challenges and frustrations that we are experiencing, and to recognize the way falling in the “Box” shifts our perspective of any situation. The concept of getting in the box dovetails very well with the Fears chart which we teach the students, and the journey of learning to recognize when their minds have been hijacked by their fears. I recommend paying special attention to the description of the different kinds of boxes that we can get into. If you apply them to yourself, it will help empower you again as a parent and the entire process of self-examination will help free you from your fears. Over the years, I have found that the parents who best learn to recognize their fears (or their boxes), and talk openly with their child about them, have the most satisfying relationships with their children for the long term after treatment.
Brent Crane, Therapist